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The answer is no

June 15, 2017

You are wondering if grieving would be easier if you’d spent more time — maybe 10 minutes more, or 20 or 30 or 40 minutes more — combing Lexi’s tiger-striped fur and petting those black velvety paws and smooching her still-soft ears — taking her in — before you placed her limp body into her bed, curled her up the way she used to sleep, folded the pillowcase over her, put the bed in a box, and buried her.

Answering my niece's text message
Answering my niece’s text message a few hours after burying Lexi

Dear one, the answer is no.

You could have wept over her body for hours; you could have stayed out there all night, combing and petting her, kneeling by the lawn chair where the vet had euthanized her while you held her in your lap; and still it wouldn’t have felt like enough time to say goodbye.

There is never enough time to say goodbye when what you want is to have more years with your beautiful sweet feisty kitty alive and healthy.

You’ve been here before. Faixa, at 13. Ousadia, at 18. Now Lexi, only 12. Losing a beloved companion never gets any easier, and no matter how many years you spend together, it’s never enough time.

And it has to be enough time, because it’s all we had.

And it was marvelous. Even when she drove me bonkers by meowing incessantly when she wanted something but didn’t seem to know quite what, or when she turned down the same flavor of food she’d eaten a few hours earlier, or when she stole my chair the minute I stood up, it was — she was — marvelous.

How lucky were we?

http://www.notetoself.blog/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/lexi-meowing-HB.mp4
Lexi meowing insistently even though she's not sure what she wants

 

Note within a note: With your next kitties, make sure you videotape them and record them purring while they’re healthy. The only purring recording you have of Lexi is her whisper-purr from when she was sick. Too sad.

Filed Under: Because: human Tagged With: personal

Your yard is calling…

May 20, 2017

Path to the backyard
Someone left the gate open; looks like the backyard is calling me.

Um, honey? I know you’re not happy with the site design (it’s not finished). I know you’re not happy with the signup form (it’s not quite doing what you want yet). I know you still need to actually create content for the blog (which is sorta the whole point of the dang thing).

But you have been fighting with WordPress plug-ins for five straight days, and it’s now the weekend, so plug-in tech support* will be scarce to nonexistent. And it is gorgeous outside right now: not too hot, not too cold, and sunny. And your gardens still need a lot of cleanup. You have weeds to pull and borders to edge.

That code isn’t going anywhere, but the daylight is.

Step away from the computer. Now.

 

* By which I mean “tech support for plug-ins,” but wouldn’t it be great if we could just plug in a cord and have our own personal tech-support person magically appear?

Filed Under: Breathe Tagged With: gardening, personal

Hello, world!

May 4, 2017

So, obviously, this blog is under construction. Should have content and an actual design in a few weeks. Thanks for waiting. 🙂

* * *

June 20th: Did I say a few weeks? Hahahahahahaha……

Oh, sorry.

Turns out WordPress is effing complicated. Plug-ins this, plug-ins that. Oy.

In the meantime, feel free to look through my photos on Flickr.

Filed Under: It seemed like a good idea at the time

Sample Post With Threaded Comments

September 1, 2013

No, I’m not going to leave this sample post here forever. Just leaving it here until I’ve got the CSS for the comments set the way I want it. I’m still monkeying around with media queries for different-size viewports.  –ceo

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This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind.

This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind. This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind.

This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind.

This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind. This is an example of a WordPress post, you could edit this to put information about yourself or your site so readers know where you are coming from. You can create as many posts as you like in order to share with your readers what is on your mind.

Filed Under: It seemed like a good idea at the time

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